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In Memory of Ryan
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A Celebration of Life
A great Soul serves everyone all the time.
A great Soul never dies.
It brings us together again and again.
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Maya Angelou
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Grief is the price we pay for love.
Queen Elizabeth
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A Tribute To Ryan
On Tuesday, August 9, 2022, Ryan J. Sperry, beloved son of Sheri and Rick P. Sperry, brother of Rick M. Sperry, uncle of Tristan Sperry, passed away at the age of 43.
Ryan was born on June 11, 1979, at Queen of the Valley Hospital in West Covina, California. Ryan attended grammar school at St. Margaret Mary Catholic School and Community Free Methodist. Ryan graduated from Etiwanda High School in 1997.
After high school, Ryan decided to enter the Armed Forces. Ryan was born during peacetime. Rick and Sheri never anticipated that either of their sons would say, “I want to join the military!” But one did. Ryan spent a year out of high school studying every aspect of our military services, speaking to all recruiters, and decided he wanted to be a United States Marine. In 1999, Ryan became a Marine. His goal was to be part of the Marine Corp Security Forces, which he achieved.
This was a decision he was very proud of, and he was excited to start this journey and his new life.
Ryan had never been away from home. “Boot Camp” took place at Camp Pendleton for 13 weeks. Leaving for 13 weeks was very hard on his mom, dad, and brother.
When Ryan “graduated” from Boot Camp, his graduation ceremony was close by in San Diego. The entire family was invited to participate in the celebration. It was a celebration the family won’t ever forget. Rick and Sheri had a big party at a local restaurant, and everyone attended.
After all of his training, he went overseas to protect the Monai Compound in the Middle East. At the time, Bahrain was considered the third highest worldwide threat to our troops... While Ryan was in Bahrain, the USS Cole was bombed on October 12, 2000, and he volunteered to guard it. He was on duty and was turned down. Marines in his unit were pulled from Bahrain because it was the closest point to the terrorist attack.
What many people may not know is the sense of duty that Ryan had. He wanted to be where the action was and wanted to volunteer for potentially hazardous missions.
Once Ryan was discharged, Ryan's journey took him to Riverside National Cemetery, where he found rewarding employment. Part of his duties included burial detail and support for the families of the Fallen. During those holidays, including Veterans Day, Independence Day, and of course, Memorial Day, it was all hands on deck. Ryan wanted to be there for those families.
A former caretaker stated this when asked what it was like to work at Riverside National Cemetery:
"This is a place where you can go to work and know that you made a difference for someone. Where the employees have the honor and privilege to lay Heroes to rest and provide their families with heartfelt service”. Ryan felt this every day he came to work.
Though Ryan spent many years serving others at Riverside National Cemetery, he wanted to try something new. Ryan transferred to the VA Loma Linda Healthcare System. Part of his job was repairing the large outside water valves. He loved this work and he was very good at it.
We were blessed to meet most of his fellow workers at the funeral ceremony. They knew exactly where Ryan would want to be laid to rest. He spent every afternoon under a tree by the lake, enjoying his lunch. His coworkers said that he would be well taken care of from here on.
Ryan was buried with full-military honors with Marine Veterans performing the 21-gun salute. It was an extraordinary private ceremony we will not soon forget.
We are now a family of four. Our son will always be in our hearts and we will never let his memory fade away.
More to come in the months ahead…
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More Memories …
Ryan Sperry
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June 11, 1979 to August 7, 2022
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September 14, 2022
Laid to Rest - Riverside National Cemetery
Family Portrait
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1999
Father's Day 2010
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Sedona, AZ
Ryan and Rick
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2006 - Broken Arrow Trail
San Diego - Coronado Island
Adeline - Sheri - Rick - Ryan - Ricky (in front)
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1983
Disneyland - Thunder Mountain
Adeline - Sheri - Ryan - Ricky - Jack
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1981
Ryan's 40th Birthday
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2019 ~ Palm Springs ~ Roy's
Mouth of the Grand Canyon
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Lake Mead - 1997
Sperry Family - Sedona
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Thanksgiving - 2017
MaMa's - Maui
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Oct 28, 2005
Lake Mojave - 1982
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Ryan - Brian - Aubry - Ricky - Sheri
Thanksgiving in Sedona
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2016 - Uncle Ryan and Tristan
Elmer's - Palm Springs
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2019 - Ryan's 40th Birthday
One of Sheri's Favorite Images
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1981
U.S. Marines
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1999
Bye Bye Uncle Ryan
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Until we meet again…
God Bless You
Map of Riverside National Cemetery
Ryan's Gravesite
Map of Riverside National Cemetery
Gravesite Location
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A Special Lakeside Location
Below you will find excerpts from an article written by SCOTT SCHWEBKE of the Orange County Register.
PUBLISHED: May 24, 2024 at 7:00 AM PDT | UPDATED: May 28, 2024 at 3:56 PM PDT -
Note: A Federal Lawsuit was dismissed because it was not timely.
Mother blames son’s suicide on work harassment at VA Loma Linda.
“It appears the pervasive culture of the VA is to ignore abusive behavior toward employees,” Sharon Sperry said of her son, a Marine Corps veteran.
Sharon L. Sperry of Sedona, Arizona, alleges in the U.S. District Court suit that “countless complaints” from her son, Ryan Joseph Sperry, and other VA Loma Linda employees regarding grounds supervisor Martin Robles were ignored, exacerbating her son’s post-traumatic stress disorder and resulting in his death on Aug. 9, 2022.
“Ryan did not like what he saw and experienced through the continual hostility and harassment from his immediate supervisor toward employees of this department and was trying to go through the right channels to lodge his complaints,” Sharon Sperry said in a statement. “He became a victim of that hostility and harassment and it sickens us to this day.”
A 2021 federal investigation recommended that Robles be fired for creating a hostile and racially charged work environment. However, instead of being terminated, he was inexplicably promoted and still works at the VA Loma Linda Healthcare System, which has more than 2,400 employees and 1,300 volunteers who serve more than 76,000 veterans.
Supervisor Keeps Job
Sharon Sperry alleges in the suit that Robles, who isn’t a veteran, harbors hatred toward subordinates who, like her son, served in the military. “Robles would make offensive comments to veterans about their time served in the military, such as telling the decendent that he was a “stupid Marine” and told decedent that he “should have died out there”, referring to his time in the Marines. Robles also told decedent that veterans are lazy and don’t deserve to work at the VA”.
In one incident, a neighbor’s ring camera captured video of Robles arriving at Sperry’s home, banging on the door, looking for a way to get in and, ultimately, breaking two windows, the suit states.
This harassment and conduct played a large role in triggering decedent’s PTSD, making him feel unsafe and ultimately lead to his worsening emotional state which culminated in his suicide.”
Note from Mr. Sperry. (Ryan’s father), Ryan kept all of this from his family. We found out after his death. Many of his co-workers came up to us and filled us in on how Ryan stood up to management for all of them. He filed a 5 page complaint with the administration on behalf of himself and the other workers in the group. There was a Congressional investigation, into the many years of complaints which led up to Ryan’s suicide. This investigation was led by Rep. Jay Olbernolte District 23.
In the years since, all of the employees were moved or promoted out of the department and given NDAs. The supervisor was also promoted out of the department. According to the article, Robles was the focus of two other VA Loma Linda investigations in 202 and 2022 that substantiated allegations that he fostered a hostile work environment.
The courage of life is often a less dramatic spectacle than the courage of a final moment; but it is no less a magnificent mixture of triumph and tragedy.
John F. Kennedy
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